chivalrous acts - #8 & #9
I'd like to submit a few more items to the list of chivalrous acts (mentioned in my previous post). They're pretty simple & probably obvious to most ppl but i thought i'd mention it anyhow (and #8's one that applies to everyone, men & women).
#8 - When dropping someone off, it's nice to wait until they're safely inside (or at least have opened their home door) before driving away. I think this is pretty practical because i view making sure a person gets home safely as part of my responsibility when driving anyone home. (i mean. what if they forgot their house keys and you've already left and they have no cell phone. then they're stranded!) Of course, guys, it's nice if you walk your date to her door when you're dropping her off, but i personally wouldn't hold it against you if you didn't. On the other hand, driving away after i've barely shut the car door would be viewed as highly inconsiderate.
#9 - (disclaimer: i didn't come up with this one...a guy actually gave me this one) Walk a girl to her car at night. This one can get a bit tricky depending on logistics...if it was a hangout at your place (the guy) and there's several ppl leaving at the same time and they all probably parked close by, then you probably don't have to. but what if the neighborhood's super safe? what if there are 2 girls and only 1 guy and they parked in totally opposite directions? ...so use your best judgment.
One last note. Chivalry is defined as "The manifestation of any of the qualities idealized by 
knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women." So basically (imo), chivalry's not about performing all/any of the acts on this list...it's more like an attitude that will naturally result in doing of some of these things. So this list is really just examples of chivalry in action. There are a ton of ways to be chivalrous so i'll just leave it at this and i'll step off the soap box...for now. :)
6 comments:
I totally agree with #9, walking the girl to the car. It shows that the guy cares about the girl's safety. I've done my share of rejecting such offers, out of politeness and not wanting to impose on others, but I've always appreciated it whenever a guy walks me to my car.
I've also appreciated it if the guy asks if the girl wants to walk to his car (when it happens to be closer) and then offers to drive over to her car to drop her off ( when her car happends to be halfway across the huge AMC Mercado parking lot). =)
I've been blessed to have a guy who's been well-trained by his mom to be chivalrous. Ladies, take notes and raise your sons to treat women the way you want to be treated.
Ah... you want for your freedoms, your equality with men. To be recognized as just as capable, strong, fast, rational, intelligent, and bold.
Foul! You cry if any male were to saddle any woman with such a label was emotional, soft, or heaven forbid, weak! Anything I can do, you can do better, do you not?
No, that glass ceiling certainly isn't going to break itself. You won't *stand* to be disparaged by the casual 'sweetie' or 'dear' by some uncouth stranger! You are *woman*, and you intend to serve notice with your roar.
Strength is your calling card when amongst friends, peers, and coworkers. Equality is your cry, except for when you approach doors, encounter puddles, have to pay for something, or dress with disregard for the weather and decorum, because heaven forbid men won't give you an opportunity to admonish them for oogling.
Chivalry is alive, but it still doesn't come with that elusive lightswitch. Perhaps we should call an electrician... oh wait, *you* can fix that yourself now, can't you?
On the reverse side of chivalry:
The checkout lady at Safeway asked me if I needed "help" to carry a can of soup to my car. I was like "are you kidding?" Turns out they ask everyone that regardless of who or what they buy. (at least I hope so)
One of these days I'm gonna mess with them and take them up on the offer. I'll buy a pack of gum and when they ask if I need help, I'll say "yes please" and start crying like a schoolgirl.
Haha... good times.
btw: (to the anonymous poster above me - holy canoli. bitter much? @_@)
I totally agree with "making sure the girls gets into the door after she gets dropped off." Even I do that for my girlfriends! Some guys unfortunately have absolutely no manners.
Chivalry in its purest form may be a little outdated nowadays, but performing the likeness of it is welcome, and sometimes fun, too.
I feel like i may have to dress as a knight to perform some of these, haha.
Common courtesy, I'd say. People need to read more Emily Post.
Or have a British nanny.
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